Anytime I feel super distracted, or I can’t focus, I turn to writing. It may sound weird but when there is nothing else I am able to do, I write. It clears my mind, helps me to calm down and makes me feel like I am doing something productive and my time is not wasted.
I was “fighting” a major fly problem today. Yes, I am talking about flies. The real flying little monsters. And I know it sounds stupid considering what is happening all around the world but this fly problem from a real-life situation helped me realize that sometimes there are no actual flies involved but we feel like something is circulating around our heads, we can’t get rid off it no matter where we go at our home. We can even go out for a walk but when we come back home, the flies are still there.
These flies can be our doubts, our distractions, our fears, our procrastination.
Aaaaaaghrfhgkgalk. If there was just a button to turn them off.
If you find yourself distracted, doubting what you are doing, afraid of the future, thinking about Hart of Dixie instead of your business plan or fighting the real insects. STOP. I’ll tell you a secret.
Some days simply suck.
And you know I am more of a *glass half full* kinda gal but it’s ok to admit to yourself that some days just suck and you won’t be able to focus and do the amazing job you always do.
I spent half of the day running around, stressing out how am I gonna kill the flies or get all of the work done with them around. And it was pointless. Useless. And completely wasted time.
Do you think I got something done?
Well, yes, I did finish a color palette and a proposal for a new branding client. But I didn’t feel the best about it. And anything other than that? NO.
And let me tell ya I had a looooooong to-do list. Because I got a master plan for the magical October.
Am I gonna spend the whole night working, stressing out, working again and just being annoyed by the whole situation? NO.
I know I got to the point where I won’t be able to focus today anymore. And as much as I am on board with finishing up your work in advance, being ahead of your plans and feeling like I am on top of my game I also know “pushing” is not the way. I don’t want to end up hating what I am doing.
So how not to feel like a failure at the end of the day? #katessecretrecipe
- Think of 5 things that you are proud of yourself you managed to do although you were distracted (e.g. writing this post, finishing the color palettes, writing the proposal, posting on my business Insta Story, cleaning up the kitchen)
- Play “How could this be worse” game and think of 5 worse life situations that could be happening to you (e.g. the flies would be cockroaches; you could be fighting with fire, you could get shot, you know where am I going with this…)
- Make a Plan B for the next day in case the flies don’t just die during the night (e.g. Frank & Joe’s coffee shop it is)
- Make a plan to kill the flies (well I sent my husband for some “fly killers” but if your flies are doubts, keep on reading)
If your flies are not just flies
- What is your fly? Is it a doubt, fear, procrastination, family matter..? What is the feeling connected with it?
- What is the CONCRETE matter (e.g. “I worry that I won’t make $4000 at the end of the month” or “I am procrastinating because I am scared that if I start I fail/I don’t want to face xyz reality/Idon’t know where to start” or “I am scared I won’t pass this test”)
- Look what you wrote under the point #2 and ask yourself IS THIS TRUE? How is this worrying helping you achieve what you want?
- I can assure you it is not true. So get your butt up and start working on the change!
- Can’t get over the point #2? Message me. I am serious. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to a stranger. Or even if you know me. I will help you figure this out. Just because I believe I am telling you the truth.
I hope you didn’t get super confused in my fly allegory and that you kick some flies! BTW I feel like Make Money By Being Who You Are is your next step.